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Promises Don't Come Easy

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Does everyone know everything, or How does everyone know everything...

Since childhood I have an few interesting doubts :-). Oh! I din't know that doubts can also be interesting! Okay! Let me get back to the point. The doubt I always had (in fact even now I have it..). Does everyone understands every emotion ? every feeling ? or is it that some people may not know few feelings, just that they would have heard about it. But then how do they empathize when someone talk about it ? I mean, does everyone has felt "electric shock" ? or does everyone know what it means to be get "burnt" ?, what is mean to get hurt ? How does we get to learn what is pain ? Is it that we keep listening to it from other people, and realize that it must be this only, or that only ? I mean, I just have these kind of doubts all the time...

We learn so many things during the puerility, but as we grow up; your learning curse goes down, at least the number of things we learn everyday ( I mean, I know it is not true with everyone, people keep learning all their life), but what I am trying to say here is, in childhood you don't even know that there is something like brain or anything which need to be used, and you just use it.And when we are grown up, we know everything and still sometimes it becomes so impossible to remember or learn something new.. why it is like that ? Is it that it is just about practice, is it just about patience ?

May be in our childhood we just keep doing whatever our folk say, or people around us do, and our body and cerebrum just get used to it. Mostly It would have been this way only. Because the things, which I know that best today, I don't think; I infact use my brain even a little for them e.g. driving, swimming, and I guess there will be illimitable number of other things like this.Hmmm...may be it is just about doing practice! I don't remember when I learnt doing multiplications, but I know that when I came to a stage (or an age) when I was needed to use multiplication, I already knew it!! I think I should be thankful to my parents, my family, and the teachers for that. May be when they would have tried to teach me these things , I might have shot them with thousands of question- why do you want me to do it ? why should I study ? I wanna go home, I wanna sleep et cetra et cetra..And they would have convinced (or bribed :-)) me somehow to "just do it"...Oh! looks like I got the same three words "Just do it agina..." looks like they are very important three words in life..Hmmm...may be it is just about doing it, and even you if you don't know today why are you doing it, someday you will generate a need for it as well.. .

I really don't know where I started, and where I ended... I mean, I am not going to use my brain now ( It's already sleeping :-)). I just did it!!

Let me take it in a positive way rather...

Today while driving back home ,I was thinking about my professional life which started more than six years back.And on the spur of the moment I realized that, I have worked with more than 10 boss' till now:-). And have gotten few milestone comments as well :-). So here they are,with my reaction on them :-)

Manager: "Manish has his own set of rules with which he lives!!"....
Me: Boo boo boo!! What the heck is that ? I am not such a bad guy, damm it!! How come, I have created such a brilliant (actually "not" gate se nikalne ka hai) imprint about myself. There should be something wrong.Let me go and discuss it right away!!
Me: Hi! I saw that you gave this (???) feedback to me, just wanted to know why is it like that ? I mean why did I deserve this much :-)?
Mananger: Oh! No... You got it in the wrong way! I meant it the other way round :-). I meant that you do the work in your own way, and it's good..
Me: Is it ? Okay! But when I read it from a third persons perspective, It gives me a different impression.. :-(.
Manager: Com'on, when did you start bothering about these things ?
Me: Hmm... "what does that mean :S, I do care about all that..** "okay, fine. I will take it in a positive way then... Thanks :-)"Gurrrrrrr....***".And after that day onwards, I guess, I was needed to explain it to everyone that it was actually a "+ve" feedback.. I hope, they understood too..

Manager++: You make a very firm opinion about something, and then it is very difficult to change it.
Me: Multalb ? Is it a positive one, or a negative one :S.
Manager: I mean, once you form a opinion, it is almost impossible to change you. It needs lot of hard work to convince you about something. May be because you already do so much background work, that you have all the facts already analyzed!
Me: Heehee... Let me take it as a positive thing then again ;-). So, unless you convince me, I am right!!! "Why can't they give it in the forthright way, or may be I don't get it... No idea!!!...".

It was when I resigned from Mot six years back (don't be surprised, I did that..:)Just after my first year completion in Mot.I didn't have any specific reason though(..??). Anyways...

Manager++: Why do you want to go ?
Me: Hmmm.. Nothing specific, I mean, I don't have any issues though. Just that I want a change.
Manager: Okay, so you can get a changes here also. Change your project, work on some different thing ...
Me: "Arre yaar jaane do naa, please**".. But I am looking for a big change. Give me two years, I will come back to Mot.
Manager: Why don't you give me just six months, and if you don't like it. I will not ask you go stay back again.
Me: " ab kya bolun yaar.......................". Okay :-(

And those six months of my professional life got converted to beautuful six professional years. But...!!!!

5 years Later... I resigned again.

Manager++ ;Manager--;......

Manager: Shall I try to stop you again :-)
Me: Nope, I am not giving any month this time :-(.

I am really grateful to all the managers/mentors I had. I think I had an amazing time with them till today, and I wish that I will have a same or better life going ahead too :-).

**: Ye sab dimaag k ander ki baat hai ;-)

Me and My boss!

DISCLAIMER: If you are my past,present or future boss, and reading this; please stop after reading the first paragraph itself :-), and if I am your present or future boss, then stop reading immediately. ;-)

Some how I never had a trouble with my boss(s) till now (touch-wood). Surprised right! So what's wrong in that ? I should be delighted. Did I say, I am not ? Yes,I am :-)

But the problem arises, when hoi polloi around me come up with this kind of things to me. And I am expected to either solve that, or at least solace them in some way or the other. To be very frank, most of the times I really don't find the problem as problem at the first place, and secondly I don't find the issue from the boss side :-(. May be because, I know that boss is anyways boss, and he will always do what is good for him (or the company). Is that wrong anyways ? So, what I finally end up trusting is, you have to take care of yourself, in your own way.

So, I always find myself enjoining people that actually it is their own faults. They always sit mum all the time hoping that their boss, and colleges will empathize them, and take the actions accordingly. But my dear friends!, it doesn't work this way. You need to plan your own career; you are not suppose to enjoy (and not use your brain), and someday find yourself complaining. You need to be proactive to guess where the things are going, and start working on them immediately. Else, according to me, you are not eligible for quetching. After all, baby who cries gets the milk! So you can take it the way you want. You can say that I am not going to coax the boss or whatever. But this is how the world works. What you need to understand and accept is,informing the boss what you want is not cajoling, and boss is also a human being, and he is not going to get a dream what you want. This is a relative and comparative world, and if you say that because you are good at your work, and only because of that you should get the best things (opportunities, promotions et cetra) , then you need to make sure that "that work" is not define by you yourself. What you do, and what you are expected to do are two different things. And what is important is, "what you are expected to do!". Not because your boss wants it, but because there is a possibility that what your boss is expecting is actually the necessity of the time,even if you are not able to see it or feel it.

So if you want to be happy in your professional life, please make sure that you at least take care of the following extra things (I am assuming that you at least do your work well, and good at it as well - at least what you define as work!).

- You must know that this is a competitive as well as comparative world. So please make sure your actions are always based on these. Don't worry, planning your ownn success does not mean that you are going to be a bad guy. Just don't hurt others, but it doesn't mean that you hurt yourself. Remember that, if you are not happy, you can not keep people around you happy anyways. So, you should be the highest priority for yourself! (I know it sounds to be little selfish, and yes, it is!).
- You should know that Rome was not built in a day, so you need to plan your actions for your future.From today, and everyday that follows.
- You nee to be aware of the surroundings, and what is changing there. And make sure that you are taking actions to cope up with those changes so that cirumstances favor you."Luck favors the brave" or I call it as "Luck favors the prepared".
- Ignorance is foolishness!
- You are suppose to know what you want. And you are suppose to convey this to your boss. He is not suppose to read your forehead, and guess what you want. You may argue why, so my point here is " how many times you have increased the salary/perks of your servants unless he/she cribs ?"
- Once you are in the industry, yo need to leave your image of being a kid. So, the sooner you grow up in your thinking, the faster you grow in the ladder.People might appreciate your nature on being a kid, but company is their to make money, so make sure that your actions are aligned with your companies progress.
- Every action of yours is noticed. Don't think that people around you are fool, or ignoring what you are doing.
- You can either be a leader, or a follower, up to you to decide.
- Finally, "knowledge, used in the right way ,and at appropriate time", pays off.
- If you are suppose to deliver something, then you are suppose to tell what all you need do complete it. So if you ask what you want and deliver it is just fine, But if you did not ask, and could not deliver the things, then it is a "havoc"! And you are the one who is responsible for that..
- As I told in my previous blog, Hard work put "everyday" pays off the most.Make sure that you are doing the hard work to achieve your noble goal, but at the same time, not making "hard work" as your noble goal. If possible, work hard, but don't make the "work" hard.
- One thing which I found always true about the job is, first you have to show confidence that you can do something, and then you have to prove it by doing it. If seeing the work you feel that it looks impossible, and you don't know if it can be done then may be just follow the below line, and I bet that it will work for you " In the beginning, every thing looks impossible, then improbable, and then INEVITABLE".. Once you do this couple of time, you and your bosses both will know that you can actually handle anything given to you :-).
- If your boss is happy with your, and your bosses boss is happy with you, your success is almost guaranteed :-).(It does not mean that you have to buy vegetables for your boss everyday... )

Even after doing all the above, if you still find yourself in the same place, then. I should really say that I don't have answers for you (right now..) , or may be you are not ready to accept that problem lies in one of these area(as far as my knowledge is concerned...)

Are you eligible to knock me ?

Have you ever felt that if you receive a criticism from your family, or friends you feel more irritated, and angry than from the people you don't know (or you don't care) ? At least I do!

I really do not want to know what my parents,my family,my friends, and my colleagues think of me. Because I am afraid that:

1. I may not take their criticism nicely.
2. I may get offended that they do not understand my situation, or just recognize the difference in our opinions about things.
3. I like to think that I am a really caring person and their true opinion may contradict it
4: I may feel bad that even if they know me in and out, and my situation sayin7-g it.
5: I may think that when I accept you the way you are a feel that my critical remarks may put you down, then why you don't think in the same way as I do.
6: Most of the time, I myself know that I am not good at certain thing, so why to tell me again and again. if you can not motivate me, you are not the one who is suppose to demotivate me either/

But apart from all these reasons, I think the bottom line is that I chose to interact with all these people, and live with all these people because I do not expect these people to evaluate me. I wish to be accepted by these people as a person that I am, with all my strengths and foibles, and still feel loved and cared for. I do realize that as individuals, they will hold certain opinions about me, and these will be mixed opinions. But as long as they love me and are on my side, I am happy.

No, I really do not need to know what they think of me. I just want them to be on my side.

I know that some people might disagree wit the idea, but let me tell you that this is what I want, so please do it if possible :-).

And if you really want to be captious to me then please make sure that the timing is appropriate, and the way you tell me is also not disheartening, because as a human being my immediate future might get affected by your criticism. And I don't like it. So if you really want to pass the annotation, make sure it is not impacting my contiguous future for sure..

Human body and the Machine

Sometime back I got a wonderful and enlightening thought, and that is- There is not much of a difference between human body and other machines. You might be wondering why I am telling this after all. Let me tell you something. I realized that whenever I fell sick in the past (although I don't fall sick very often - touch wood) I always got a feeling that it is not going to be cured.. I mean whether it was a small -when I almost broke my thumb while doing skating in college- or when I got a severe cold few years back. I remember that I always had a feeling that it will always be like that, and don't know what will happen! Somewhere I should say that I was always treating human body in a different way compare to other machines.Because whenever any thing else goes bad, I always know that I can get it repaired! So then I realized someday, that why to take this thing differently ?

And hence I could draw a conclusion that in some ways or the other they are actually very similar:

- While reading human biology I realized that the too many laws of physics get applied to body as well.
- If you don't clean or do proper maintenance of the machine, it goes bad! and similarly it happens for the human body. (so do the proper care of your body, one apple a day, keeps the doctor away :-)). By the way, do you know that if you put lemon on a cut apple pieces, it does not go brown for hours :-) and tastes good too :-)
- If machine can be repaired, body can be repaired too :-). So just don't worry if you fell sick sometime. You will be cured, just take proper care, and medication.
- Body is like elastic, the more you stretch, the more it can be used... So just don't think that you are getting tired. It's like your brain, the more you use it, the more you get :-). I think, here it is little opposite to machine ;-),But still let me keep it here. ..
- A yearly checkup may help you keeping an eye on yourself :-). I mean I am sure you are always ready to give your car/bike for servicing in few months. So why not our self ?

Anyways, philosophy bahot ho gayi :-).

Let me go and grab my dinner now...